I need feminism because I shouldn’t be hesitant to tell people that I am a lesbian just because I want to avoid stupid responses.
Pro-tip: if a girl tells you that she is a lesbian, it is not okay to say to her
- "Hot! Can I watch?"
- "So who wears the pants?"
- "How do you have sex?"
- Were you raped/mistreated by a man to make you this way?”
- "Aw, you just haven’t found the right guy yet."
- "You’re too pretty to be gay!"
- "I can change your mind."
- "Does that mean that you hate men?"
- "Ugh, attention whore."
Just a reminder—it is completely inappropriate to ask a person, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation, explicitly sexual questions in an everyday conversation, unless you know that person very well and you are sure that they are comfortable with talking about that sort of thing with you.
But as a gay woman, I feel as though more people feel compelled to cross that line and ask me these uncomfortable questions. I am not Google. You can’t just ask me such crude questions and expect me to be okay with it.
And for some reason, I hear a lot less about gay men being heckled about their orientation by horny women who won’t stop objectifying them. And what’s even more annoying is the fact that gay men aren’t often accused of secretly liking women and taking up a new sexual identity for their attention. I actually saw a post not too long ago that kind of explains my feelings on this matter.
My sexuality is mine. I’m not telling you that I’m a lesbian because I want your attention or because I’m looking for someone to “change my mind”. I’m telling you that I don’t want to touch your dick, and you’re essentially wasting your time and making yourself look like a try-hard jackass by continuing to harass me.